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Tag Archive: change

Jan 12

Do we really need new sheets, calendars, housecleaning and new thoughts in January?

“If you can’t make it better, you can laugh at it” – Erma Bombeck

Adaptation is what we need in January, we tell ourselves this time of year.

I do not know about you, but the older I become the less adaptive I care to be.

Encarta Encyclopedia describes “alteration” as the state of changing to fit new circumstances or conditions, a revision if you will.

It is curious to me that I used to love change, but now I am not so sure I like it.

Come January most of us resolve to try something new. Buy new sheets. Try to understand a calendar that begins on a Monday. Move the chairs and furniture around, put away Christmas decorations, clean the closets, think new thoughts and look at life differently. And oh yes, if there is time, organize those photographs that reside in boxes in the basement or in files on one’s computer.

I began these January tasks by putting away Christmas decorations and thoroughly cleaning the house. However, I quickly became bored and instead spent the afternoon watching two back-to-back chick flicks, popped popcorn and enjoyed a Root Beer. Don’t tell the spousal unit.

The next day I attempted to take down Christmas decorations again, and this time as I was carrying two many boxes and sacks down the basement steps, twisted my knee and fell on my wrist. No serious damage was done, although I am wearing support braces on both appendages.

So much for housekeeping. You see, as Erma Bombeck once said, “Housework can kill you if done right.”

Then there are the annual January white sales in all my favorite stores, and I am confident this will be the year I replace the sheets. Maybe I will cover the sofa and buy a new bedskirt and comforter set as well. Usually by the time I decide what I want, the sales are over.

New calendars arrive, but some of them begin with Monday instead of Sunday. I cannot fathom these at all, so I probably will not use them. I have to wonder who designed these calendars, some 23-year-old commercial art student fresh out of college? Don’t they know we baby boomers have to have our calendars start on Sunday because that is all we have ever known? Ok, Ok, I suppose they are designed for the business week, but why?

As I was saying, we baby boomers may like to think we are open to new ways, but truth be told, we drag our feet kicking and screaming into the new year and into anything new at all. The old year and our old ways were just fine with us.

Farmers in the Midwest, have a saying for our January conundrum, “Don’t interfere with somethin’ that ain’t botherin’ you none,” like last year.

In many ways though, last year did bother us a lot. Every year does.

So, we contemplate change each January and hope that this January change will actually happen, but I wouldn’t count on it.

Although come to think of it, according to Washington Irving, “There is a certain relief in change, even though it may be from bad to worse As I have often found in traveling in a stagecoach, that it is often a comfort to shift one’s position and be bruised in a new place!”

I think I am ready for February.

Jan 13

January is the time for change and new bed sheets

The month of January is all about contemplation and change. Not that I may change anything at all, but I think about it a lot in January.

I am not sure we Baby Boomers are that keen on change anyway.

Still, the first month of the New Year is full of the promise of change, and I like the idea, in the beginning.

For instance, there are the annual January white sales in all my favorite stores, and I am confident this will be the year I replace the sheets. Maybe I will cover the sofa and buy a new bedskirt and comforter set as well. Usually by the time I decide what I want, the sales are over.

New calendars arrive, but some of them begin with Monday instead of Sunday. I cannot fathom that at all, so I probably will not use them. I have to wonder who designed those calendars, some 23-year-old commercial art students fresh out of college? Don’t they know we Baby Boomers have to have our calendars start on Sunday because that is all we have ever known? Ok, Ok, I suppose they are designed for the business week, but why?

We had a house guest recently who helped with dinner and graciously set the table. She arranged it beautifully although differently that we do. She happened to move two unneeded chairs out of the way because there were only four of us at a table for six. Perfect. Lovely table. Dinner is served.

Enter my Baby Boomer husband who was immediately thrown by the change. He simply could not figure out where to sit. “Well,” he said, I always sit here. Why are there two chairs missing? Where do I sit? This is my spot on this side of the table? Why am I supposed to sit on the other side?”

As I was saying, we Baby Boomers may like to think we are open to new ways, but truth be told, we drag our feet kicking and screaming into the new year and into anything new at all. The old year and our old ways were just fine with us.

Farmers in the Midwest, have a saying for our January conundrum, “Don’t interfere with somethin’ that ain’t botherin’ you none,” like last year.

In many ways though, last year did bother us a lot. Every year does.

So, we contemplate change each January and hope that this January change will actually happen.

Often, we are tempted to leave well enough alone and not tackle the newness we want in our lives but may be reluctant to find. Perhaps, it is a new job, retirement, new surroundings, new car, more travel, a new boss, less worries, more contentment, less weight, new sheets.

The truth is we know all too well that change is absolutely necessary for survival.

Confucius admonished us that change is required for happiness as well, “They must often change, who would be constant in happiness or wisdom.”

William Blake once wrote that it is critical to happiness to change one’s mind as well, “The man who never alters his opinions is like standing water and breeds reptiles of the mind.”

Adaptation is what we need in January. Try something new. Think new thoughts. Look at life differently. Buy new sheets. Move the chairs. Try to understand a calendar that begins on a Monday. Well, maybe not the calendar.

After all, according to Washington Irving, “There is a certain relief in change, even though it may be from bad to worse As I have often found in traveling in a stagecoach, that it is often a comfort to shift one’s position and be bruised in a new place!”

First thing next January, I am buying new sheets.

Kay Hoflander writes Full Circle about the ‘reluctant aging of Baby Boomers’ on a weekly basis for The Examiner. You can reach her at kayhoflander.com.